Elkanah, Peninnah, Hannah
by:Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
The book of 1 Samuel Chapter 1 starts to tell the story of Elkanah, Peninnah, and Hannah. Elkanah was married to both Peninnah and Hannah, Peninnah was able to have many children with Elkanah but Hannah was not able to.
Now Elkanah loved both women very much and was ok with the fact that Hannah was not able to have children. When they went to the temple to bring their sacrifices and worship The Lord, Elkanah would give portions of choice meat to Peninnah and each of her children, for Hannah he would only give her on portion of choice meat because she had no children. Peninnah saw this and would taunt Hannah about the fact that she had no children, Peninnah's dtaunting brought Hannah to tears and she was not able to eat.
Elkanah could not understand why Hannah was so upset about not being able to have children, his response to her was : " Why are you crying Hannah? Why aren't you eating? Why be downhearted just because you have no children? You have me - isn't that better than having ten sons?" (1 Samuel 1:8)
I have listened to many friends tell me how their husbands just don't understand what we go through when we don't have children but want them so desperately. Even here in the bible Elkanah was not able to understand the hurt and the pain that Hannah was going through. It was not just the taunting from Peninnah that brought on these tears and anguish. Hannah truly wanted to have the joys of being a mother, that need was deep in her heart and she begged The Lord to full fill this need and want. I will get more into that tomorrow.
I relate to this story as I am sure there are many women out there who do as well. When our husbands or partners don't understand the hurt and the wanting that we have in our hearts it starts to pull us away from the ones that we love. We start to pull down into ourselves, we stop talking about what is hurting us because we feel no understands the hurt and pain that we are feeling.
Remember when you feel this way that there is one who understands our hurts, our anguishes and can see everything that our hearts desire. Share your thoughts, your dreams, your wishes, your hurts and your happiness with The Lord. Let him give you the promises that he has promised, let him make your dreams come true.
God Bless you all,
Tabitha
Monday, February 18, 2013
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Day 5 Summary of Abraham and Sarah
Summary of Abraham and Sarah
by:Tabitha Norvell insuliteangel29@gmail.com
I have shared with you the story of Abraham and Sarah. I thought this would be a good story to start out with so that you could see the promises and the miracles that God has in store for us.
The main thing that God wants for us is to believe and trust in Him, with everything that goes on in our lives. It does not matter how small or how insignificant we may think it is, God wants to hear about it. He is here to help us with anything and everything that we could ever want and even those things that we would never dream could happen to us.
God has promised us to be fruitful and have many descendants as long as we live for him. Trust in him, believe in him and live your life for him and he will give you all the blessing and joy in the world. He never said that our lives would be easy, but He already has everything worked out for us. He already knows the ending to everything that we come up against. If God is standing with us who can stand against us? Nobody!!
Dear Lord,
I come to you today and ask that you will hear these women's cries. That you will bless them with all the gifts and joy that you have planned for each one of us. We know you are merciful and wonderful God! We thank you for everything that you have already blessed us with and want to live our lives for you LORD!!!
In Jesus Name Amen.
God Bless you all!
Tabitha
by:Tabitha Norvell insuliteangel29@gmail.com
I have shared with you the story of Abraham and Sarah. I thought this would be a good story to start out with so that you could see the promises and the miracles that God has in store for us.
The main thing that God wants for us is to believe and trust in Him, with everything that goes on in our lives. It does not matter how small or how insignificant we may think it is, God wants to hear about it. He is here to help us with anything and everything that we could ever want and even those things that we would never dream could happen to us.
God has promised us to be fruitful and have many descendants as long as we live for him. Trust in him, believe in him and live your life for him and he will give you all the blessing and joy in the world. He never said that our lives would be easy, but He already has everything worked out for us. He already knows the ending to everything that we come up against. If God is standing with us who can stand against us? Nobody!!
Dear Lord,
I come to you today and ask that you will hear these women's cries. That you will bless them with all the gifts and joy that you have planned for each one of us. We know you are merciful and wonderful God! We thank you for everything that you have already blessed us with and want to live our lives for you LORD!!!
In Jesus Name Amen.
God Bless you all!
Tabitha
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Day 4 Abraham and Sarah Part 2
Abraham and Sarah Part 2
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
Yesterday I shared with you the beginning of Abraham and Sarah's journey to having a baby at the ages of 90 and 100 years of age. In today's world most people don't live that long, and if they do it is really hard to imagine them having children at that age. But I think that is the point at times with God. He does things that we could not even imagine being possible. He blesses us with things that we could never have dreamed of. So keep your heads up, keep the faith and know that God hears your cries and knows whats in your heart.
Genesis 18:10
Then one of them said, "I will return to you about this time next year, and your wife, Sarah, will have a son!"
Again God is promising that even though they are older in age they will have the blessings that God has promised them.
Genesis 18:12
So she laughed silently to herself and said, " How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master- my husband- is so old?"
Sarah laughs at God and questions his promise. She doubts that she will be blessed with the promises and gifts from God. God hears her laugh and hears her question.
Genesis 18:14
Is anything to hard for the Lord? I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son."
The Lord explains to Abraham that there is nothing to big for the Lord to accomplish. He can make all of our dreams and wishes come true. He can do things that we never thought possible, He can bless us with babies, he can heal our PCOS he can do anything that we need him to do.
Genesis 21:1-2
The Lord kept his word and did for Sarah exactly what he had promised. She became pregnant and she gave birth to a son for Abraham in his old age.
Genesis 21:6-7
And Sarah declared, " God has brought me laughter. All who hear about this will laugh with me. Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse a baby? Yet I have given Abraham a son in his old age!"
God keeps his promises. No matter how old, how sick, how heartbroken, it doesn't matter what it is that you are suffering through. If you believe in God, believe in his word, believe that he hears your cries and wants to bless you with the gifts he has for you, He will take care of you. If you trust him with everything that you are, trust that he will take care of you, and trust that he hears your cries, GOD will take care of you. God will answer your prayers, God will bless you with whatever it is your heart desires, as long as you are living your life for him, as long as you believe in him and trust in Him.
I hope you all have a wonderful day! If you have any questions, comments or just want to talk about anything that I have posted please feel free to comment on here, send me an email, or send me a message on facebook. I am completely open to sharing with anybody who wants to, or talking about anything that I have posted.
God bless you all!
Tabitha
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
Yesterday I shared with you the beginning of Abraham and Sarah's journey to having a baby at the ages of 90 and 100 years of age. In today's world most people don't live that long, and if they do it is really hard to imagine them having children at that age. But I think that is the point at times with God. He does things that we could not even imagine being possible. He blesses us with things that we could never have dreamed of. So keep your heads up, keep the faith and know that God hears your cries and knows whats in your heart.
Genesis 18:10
Then one of them said, "I will return to you about this time next year, and your wife, Sarah, will have a son!"
Again God is promising that even though they are older in age they will have the blessings that God has promised them.
Genesis 18:12
So she laughed silently to herself and said, " How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master- my husband- is so old?"
Sarah laughs at God and questions his promise. She doubts that she will be blessed with the promises and gifts from God. God hears her laugh and hears her question.
Genesis 18:14
Is anything to hard for the Lord? I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son."
The Lord explains to Abraham that there is nothing to big for the Lord to accomplish. He can make all of our dreams and wishes come true. He can do things that we never thought possible, He can bless us with babies, he can heal our PCOS he can do anything that we need him to do.
Genesis 21:1-2
The Lord kept his word and did for Sarah exactly what he had promised. She became pregnant and she gave birth to a son for Abraham in his old age.
Genesis 21:6-7
And Sarah declared, " God has brought me laughter. All who hear about this will laugh with me. Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse a baby? Yet I have given Abraham a son in his old age!"
God keeps his promises. No matter how old, how sick, how heartbroken, it doesn't matter what it is that you are suffering through. If you believe in God, believe in his word, believe that he hears your cries and wants to bless you with the gifts he has for you, He will take care of you. If you trust him with everything that you are, trust that he will take care of you, and trust that he hears your cries, GOD will take care of you. God will answer your prayers, God will bless you with whatever it is your heart desires, as long as you are living your life for him, as long as you believe in him and trust in Him.
I hope you all have a wonderful day! If you have any questions, comments or just want to talk about anything that I have posted please feel free to comment on here, send me an email, or send me a message on facebook. I am completely open to sharing with anybody who wants to, or talking about anything that I have posted.
God bless you all!
Tabitha
Monday, February 11, 2013
Day 3 Abraham and Sarah Part 1
Abraham and Sarah
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
I have shared with you the making of a wife and what a noble wife is. There is so much more information about being a wife and what God has planned for us as wife's and what he wants from our husband's. If you want more information about any of that please let me know and I will be happy to share with you what I have studied and where to find it.
Today I want to start Abraham and Sarah's story. God did amazing things for Abraham and Sarah.
Genesis 15 tells the beginning of the story for Abram and Sarai. In this chapter Abram cries out to the Lord, asking him what good all of his blessings are if he had no heir to pass his household and wealth onto. After Abram cried out to the Lord, the Lord responded that he would have many descendants and Abram's servants would not inherit Abram's wealth and household.
Genesis 15:6
Abram believed the Lord, and the Lord counted him as righteous because of his faith.
Bible Notes:
Just when Abram was despairing of ever having an heir, God promised descendants too numerous to imagine. Gods blessings are beyond our imagination.
Genesis 17:1-2
When Abram was ninety nine years old, the Lord appeared to him and said, " I am El-Shaddai- God Almighty. Serve me faithfully and live a blameless life. I will make a covenant with you, by which I will guarantee to give you countless descendants.
In these verses God has promised Abram and Sarai a heir to their household and wealth. Even though they are older in age God is still planning on blessing them with children. There is a condition to this blessing, Abram has to live his life faithfully to God. All God wants from us is to live our lives for him, to follow the things that he has laid out for us. He knows that we are not perfect and that is ok with him, he loves us any ways and wants us to have all the blessings that he has planned for us.
Through the first part of chapter 17 of Genesis God promises many times that Abram will be blessed with descendants. God states that these descendants will become many nations, and kings will be among them. ( Genesis 17:7)
After promising Abram that he would give him descendants the Lord changed his name to Abraham and then continued on to change Sarai's name to Sarah.
Genesis 17:16
And I will bless her and give you a son from her! Yes I will bless her richly, and she will become the mother of many nations, Kings of nations will be among her descendants.
Now keep in mind that at this time Abraham was 100 years old and Sarah was 90. If you think about how we live today, can you imagine being told at 90 years old that you are going to become pregnant to many children? Abraham had a hard time believing that God would grant him and Sarah this blessing because of their age. He asked the Lord to bless someone else in his place. Here was God's answer to Abraham's request:
Genesis 17:19
But God replied, " No - Sarah, your wife, will give birth to a son for you. You will name him Isaac, and I will confirm my covenant with him and his descendants as an everlasting covenant.
Here again God promises Abraham and Sarah that they will have a son.
As you read the story of Abraham and Sarah it is amazing to see the things that God can and will do. I will share the rest of this story through out the next couple of days.
Remember that even though we suffer everyday with PCOS God wants us to have children. He wants us to be fruitful, and when it is his time he will make those dreams come true. It may not be in the way that we want it to happen and it may not be in the time that we want it, but it will happen. Trusting and believing in him and living your life for and through him will give God the grounds that he needs to give you the blessings he has laid out for you. Even through this path is hard, and we want things to happen right now, and the way we think they should happen God hears our cries and he knows our hearts. He will fill the wants and the needs of our hearts and deepest wishes. We just have to trust him to do it his way and in his time. We have to believe that he will make this happen for us someday.
When we live our lives with only half beliefs or only some what trusting that God will make things happen it closes the door to God. He cant come in and bless us with everything he has laid out if we have our foot on the back of the door holding it half way closed. Open the door wide, give God the chance to walk through those doors with all of the gifts and blessing's he has for you. Give your full trust to him, trust that he will give you everything that your heart desires.
God Bless you all,
Tabitha
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
I have shared with you the making of a wife and what a noble wife is. There is so much more information about being a wife and what God has planned for us as wife's and what he wants from our husband's. If you want more information about any of that please let me know and I will be happy to share with you what I have studied and where to find it.
Today I want to start Abraham and Sarah's story. God did amazing things for Abraham and Sarah.
Genesis 15 tells the beginning of the story for Abram and Sarai. In this chapter Abram cries out to the Lord, asking him what good all of his blessings are if he had no heir to pass his household and wealth onto. After Abram cried out to the Lord, the Lord responded that he would have many descendants and Abram's servants would not inherit Abram's wealth and household.
Genesis 15:6
Abram believed the Lord, and the Lord counted him as righteous because of his faith.
Bible Notes:
Just when Abram was despairing of ever having an heir, God promised descendants too numerous to imagine. Gods blessings are beyond our imagination.
Genesis 17:1-2
When Abram was ninety nine years old, the Lord appeared to him and said, " I am El-Shaddai- God Almighty. Serve me faithfully and live a blameless life. I will make a covenant with you, by which I will guarantee to give you countless descendants.
In these verses God has promised Abram and Sarai a heir to their household and wealth. Even though they are older in age God is still planning on blessing them with children. There is a condition to this blessing, Abram has to live his life faithfully to God. All God wants from us is to live our lives for him, to follow the things that he has laid out for us. He knows that we are not perfect and that is ok with him, he loves us any ways and wants us to have all the blessings that he has planned for us.
Through the first part of chapter 17 of Genesis God promises many times that Abram will be blessed with descendants. God states that these descendants will become many nations, and kings will be among them. ( Genesis 17:7)
After promising Abram that he would give him descendants the Lord changed his name to Abraham and then continued on to change Sarai's name to Sarah.
Genesis 17:16
And I will bless her and give you a son from her! Yes I will bless her richly, and she will become the mother of many nations, Kings of nations will be among her descendants.
Now keep in mind that at this time Abraham was 100 years old and Sarah was 90. If you think about how we live today, can you imagine being told at 90 years old that you are going to become pregnant to many children? Abraham had a hard time believing that God would grant him and Sarah this blessing because of their age. He asked the Lord to bless someone else in his place. Here was God's answer to Abraham's request:
Genesis 17:19
But God replied, " No - Sarah, your wife, will give birth to a son for you. You will name him Isaac, and I will confirm my covenant with him and his descendants as an everlasting covenant.
Here again God promises Abraham and Sarah that they will have a son.
As you read the story of Abraham and Sarah it is amazing to see the things that God can and will do. I will share the rest of this story through out the next couple of days.
Remember that even though we suffer everyday with PCOS God wants us to have children. He wants us to be fruitful, and when it is his time he will make those dreams come true. It may not be in the way that we want it to happen and it may not be in the time that we want it, but it will happen. Trusting and believing in him and living your life for and through him will give God the grounds that he needs to give you the blessings he has laid out for you. Even through this path is hard, and we want things to happen right now, and the way we think they should happen God hears our cries and he knows our hearts. He will fill the wants and the needs of our hearts and deepest wishes. We just have to trust him to do it his way and in his time. We have to believe that he will make this happen for us someday.
When we live our lives with only half beliefs or only some what trusting that God will make things happen it closes the door to God. He cant come in and bless us with everything he has laid out if we have our foot on the back of the door holding it half way closed. Open the door wide, give God the chance to walk through those doors with all of the gifts and blessing's he has for you. Give your full trust to him, trust that he will give you everything that your heart desires.
God Bless you all,
Tabitha
Friday, February 8, 2013
Day 2 What is a Noble wife?
What is a Noble Wife?
By: Tabitha Norvell Insulightangel29@gmail.com
Yesterday we learned about how God made a wife and what a special gift marriage is. Today I am going to share with you Proverbs Chapter 31. In this chapter it explains what a Noble wife is and what we can do for our husbands and our families.
Proverbs 31: 10
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious then rubies. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Proverbs 31: 11- 12
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
I read the last two versus and thought I have never brought my husband any physical harm so I must be doing ok. But what I failed to realize is that not all harm is physical. It could be emotional, financial, mental harm. Causing stress is a harm to our husbands. I am not saying that wives are the cause of stress because I know there is so much more to stress then just one person. Have you looked at your marriage lately and thought what harm am I doing? I did this just this morning and realized that by complaining and nagging I am causing my husband harm. By laying everything that is going wrong at the feet of my husband I am doing him harm. I do not think that everything that is going wrong right now is his fault, I know for a fact that most of it is not his fault. Most of the time I just need someone to talk to about it and because he is my other half he is the one that I speak with. What this does to some men is they want to fix everything so when we talk to them about everyday struggles or even long term struggles they want to fix it and fix it right now. This in turn becomes a stress for them and can cause them great harm.
I have learned that instead of laying it all at his feet I have a few close female friends that I know have my best interests at heart that I talk to first. By doing this when I do sit down and speak to my husband about it I can be clear and concise and help him to understand that I am not looking for a fix I am looking for him to just listen, without putting any sort of blame or stress on him.
Proverbs 31: 15
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day's work for her servant girls. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
With this verse a lot of us are able to get up and prepare breakfast for our men or pack their lunches or whatever it is that they need. But not always due to job demands or illnesses. With PCOS there are times that just getting out of bed at all is difficult. Of course now a days we dont have servant girls so in my mind when I read this I think of the wife planning the days work for herself and if she is blessed to have children planning their day as well. If we are not able to do this I dont feel that God would love us any less. As long as we do everything that we can everyday to take care of our household and our husbands and families I think that is all God is asking for. But that is my opinion on it.
Proverbs 31: 17-18
She is energetic and strong, A hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Reading these verses the first thing that came to mind was, " I used to be this way, before the depression, anxiety and weight came on." I want to be this person again. I want to take the weight of the world off of my husbands shoulders and help him carry the load. But how do I get there? How do I pull myself out of the pit that I am in and be the person my husband needs me to be? For me it was allowing God back into my life. Asking for his help through everyday, every appointment, job interview, even just talking with friends and family. I even asked him for help with my energy level so that I would be able to do the things around my house that needed to be done.
Proverbs 31:20-22
She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
I strive to be this woman every day. I want to help those around me as much as I can. The one thing that I have always had to remember is that when I am reaching out and helping those around me, I cant be afraid to ask for help when I need it as well. That has always been something that I have struggled with. I would rather every one else around me had what they needed and I would go with out.
In verse 22 it says she dresses in fine linen and purple gowns, my take on that is that dressing nice for our husbands is what it is talking about. Being the woman that our husband is proud to show off. I spent a lot of our marriage in sweats and a hoodie. Still do most the time, but what I have learned over the years is that when I dress up for him, whether we are going out for dinner or going shopping or are having friends over, the situation did not matter, all he saw was that I had taken the time for HIM to look nice. I will wear his favorite shirt, jeans whatever it is just to get the smile on his face. He always tells me I dont need make up so I try to do natural colors and make it very little just so that I can feel good about myself and he can be proud of the way I look.
I have started taking up crocheting and cross stitch to make blankets and clothes for myself and my husband. It is so much cheaper to make your own bedding then it is to go buy it any more. Plus you feel like you have accomplished something and can feel good about yourself. My husband loves the fact that I make him things. He takes them with him to work and brags about how his wife spoils him rotten. Not everybody has time for this and that is understandable and ok. If you have free time this is a great hobby to pick up.
Proverbs 31:25
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Being clothed with strength and dignity is a big thing. I want my husband to be able to rely on me for things that need to be done or to help him carry the weight of the world. Laughing with out fear of the future? That one is a lot harder to get a grip on. I worry about what is going to happen every day. What the future holds for us and where we are going to end up. I am learning to live for today. Only worry about what I can do today. What tasks I can accomplish. I am learning how to be thankful for everything that I have for today. Tomorrow will come and I can not stop it, but today everything is right in my world, and if its not then I do what I need to, to make it right for today.
Proverbs 31:26
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Are you kind when you speak to your partner about things that are going on? Do you remember to think before you speak so that your words are kind and wise? I try to, but I am so not perfect. I try to remember that just because I am thinking something does not mean it needs to be said in the tone and way that I am thinking it. I was just given the surprise of my life the other day and had to stop and think about the situation before I spoke. It was not something that I agreed with and wanted to look at the person and go what are you thinking. Instead I took some time to think it over and then decided that even though I dont agree with it I still love that family member and want to support them, so that is what I did. I told them that I loved them and would support them through anything that they needed. God wants us to be loving, caring, supporting individuals in all aspects of our lives. He wants us to be like him.
Being lazy can be taken many ways. It could be that person that lays in bed or on the couch all day and does nothing, it could be the person who only prays when they need something but doesnt rely on God for the everyday things. It could be that person who goes to work and only does just enough to get by, or the student who gets grades just good enough to pass the class. When we dont use our full potential we are letting ourselves and God down. He has great plans for us and if we do not hold our end of the deal up, God can not hold his end of the deal.
Proverbs 31:30-31
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
In the foot notes my bible reads: This woman is an excellent wife and mother. She is also a manufacturer, importer, manager, Realtor, farmer, seamstress, upholsterer, and merchant. Her strength and dignity do not come from her amazing achievements, however. They are a result of her reverence for God. In our society, where physical appearance counts for so much, it may surprise us to realize that her appearance is never mentioned. Her attractiveness comes entirely from her character.
The woman described in this chapter has outstanding abilities. Her family's social position is high. In fact she my not be one woman at all, she may a composite portrait of ideal womanhood. Do not see her as a model to imitate in every detail; your days are not long enough to do everything she does! See her instead as an inspiration to be all you can be. We cant be just like her, but we can learn from her industry, integrity, and resourcefulness.
I dont think there is anything that I could add to that. It pretty much summed it up. Make sure that everyday you are doing everything that you can to be everything that you can. Love your husband, families, neighbors and friends the way that God loves us. You will be amazed how different your life will become, how different you will feel each day.
God bless you all!
Lots of Love and Support,
Tabitha
By: Tabitha Norvell Insulightangel29@gmail.com
Yesterday we learned about how God made a wife and what a special gift marriage is. Today I am going to share with you Proverbs Chapter 31. In this chapter it explains what a Noble wife is and what we can do for our husbands and our families.
Proverbs 31: 10
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious then rubies. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Proverbs 31: 11- 12
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
I read the last two versus and thought I have never brought my husband any physical harm so I must be doing ok. But what I failed to realize is that not all harm is physical. It could be emotional, financial, mental harm. Causing stress is a harm to our husbands. I am not saying that wives are the cause of stress because I know there is so much more to stress then just one person. Have you looked at your marriage lately and thought what harm am I doing? I did this just this morning and realized that by complaining and nagging I am causing my husband harm. By laying everything that is going wrong at the feet of my husband I am doing him harm. I do not think that everything that is going wrong right now is his fault, I know for a fact that most of it is not his fault. Most of the time I just need someone to talk to about it and because he is my other half he is the one that I speak with. What this does to some men is they want to fix everything so when we talk to them about everyday struggles or even long term struggles they want to fix it and fix it right now. This in turn becomes a stress for them and can cause them great harm.
I have learned that instead of laying it all at his feet I have a few close female friends that I know have my best interests at heart that I talk to first. By doing this when I do sit down and speak to my husband about it I can be clear and concise and help him to understand that I am not looking for a fix I am looking for him to just listen, without putting any sort of blame or stress on him.
Proverbs 31: 15
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day's work for her servant girls. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
With this verse a lot of us are able to get up and prepare breakfast for our men or pack their lunches or whatever it is that they need. But not always due to job demands or illnesses. With PCOS there are times that just getting out of bed at all is difficult. Of course now a days we dont have servant girls so in my mind when I read this I think of the wife planning the days work for herself and if she is blessed to have children planning their day as well. If we are not able to do this I dont feel that God would love us any less. As long as we do everything that we can everyday to take care of our household and our husbands and families I think that is all God is asking for. But that is my opinion on it.
Proverbs 31: 17-18
She is energetic and strong, A hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Reading these verses the first thing that came to mind was, " I used to be this way, before the depression, anxiety and weight came on." I want to be this person again. I want to take the weight of the world off of my husbands shoulders and help him carry the load. But how do I get there? How do I pull myself out of the pit that I am in and be the person my husband needs me to be? For me it was allowing God back into my life. Asking for his help through everyday, every appointment, job interview, even just talking with friends and family. I even asked him for help with my energy level so that I would be able to do the things around my house that needed to be done.
Proverbs 31:20-22
She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
I strive to be this woman every day. I want to help those around me as much as I can. The one thing that I have always had to remember is that when I am reaching out and helping those around me, I cant be afraid to ask for help when I need it as well. That has always been something that I have struggled with. I would rather every one else around me had what they needed and I would go with out.
In verse 22 it says she dresses in fine linen and purple gowns, my take on that is that dressing nice for our husbands is what it is talking about. Being the woman that our husband is proud to show off. I spent a lot of our marriage in sweats and a hoodie. Still do most the time, but what I have learned over the years is that when I dress up for him, whether we are going out for dinner or going shopping or are having friends over, the situation did not matter, all he saw was that I had taken the time for HIM to look nice. I will wear his favorite shirt, jeans whatever it is just to get the smile on his face. He always tells me I dont need make up so I try to do natural colors and make it very little just so that I can feel good about myself and he can be proud of the way I look.
I have started taking up crocheting and cross stitch to make blankets and clothes for myself and my husband. It is so much cheaper to make your own bedding then it is to go buy it any more. Plus you feel like you have accomplished something and can feel good about yourself. My husband loves the fact that I make him things. He takes them with him to work and brags about how his wife spoils him rotten. Not everybody has time for this and that is understandable and ok. If you have free time this is a great hobby to pick up.
Proverbs 31:25
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Being clothed with strength and dignity is a big thing. I want my husband to be able to rely on me for things that need to be done or to help him carry the weight of the world. Laughing with out fear of the future? That one is a lot harder to get a grip on. I worry about what is going to happen every day. What the future holds for us and where we are going to end up. I am learning to live for today. Only worry about what I can do today. What tasks I can accomplish. I am learning how to be thankful for everything that I have for today. Tomorrow will come and I can not stop it, but today everything is right in my world, and if its not then I do what I need to, to make it right for today.
Proverbs 31:26
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
Are you kind when you speak to your partner about things that are going on? Do you remember to think before you speak so that your words are kind and wise? I try to, but I am so not perfect. I try to remember that just because I am thinking something does not mean it needs to be said in the tone and way that I am thinking it. I was just given the surprise of my life the other day and had to stop and think about the situation before I spoke. It was not something that I agreed with and wanted to look at the person and go what are you thinking. Instead I took some time to think it over and then decided that even though I dont agree with it I still love that family member and want to support them, so that is what I did. I told them that I loved them and would support them through anything that they needed. God wants us to be loving, caring, supporting individuals in all aspects of our lives. He wants us to be like him.
Being lazy can be taken many ways. It could be that person that lays in bed or on the couch all day and does nothing, it could be the person who only prays when they need something but doesnt rely on God for the everyday things. It could be that person who goes to work and only does just enough to get by, or the student who gets grades just good enough to pass the class. When we dont use our full potential we are letting ourselves and God down. He has great plans for us and if we do not hold our end of the deal up, God can not hold his end of the deal.
Proverbs 31:30-31
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New living Translation)
In the foot notes my bible reads: This woman is an excellent wife and mother. She is also a manufacturer, importer, manager, Realtor, farmer, seamstress, upholsterer, and merchant. Her strength and dignity do not come from her amazing achievements, however. They are a result of her reverence for God. In our society, where physical appearance counts for so much, it may surprise us to realize that her appearance is never mentioned. Her attractiveness comes entirely from her character.
The woman described in this chapter has outstanding abilities. Her family's social position is high. In fact she my not be one woman at all, she may a composite portrait of ideal womanhood. Do not see her as a model to imitate in every detail; your days are not long enough to do everything she does! See her instead as an inspiration to be all you can be. We cant be just like her, but we can learn from her industry, integrity, and resourcefulness.
I dont think there is anything that I could add to that. It pretty much summed it up. Make sure that everyday you are doing everything that you can to be everything that you can. Love your husband, families, neighbors and friends the way that God loves us. You will be amazed how different your life will become, how different you will feel each day.
God bless you all!
Lots of Love and Support,
Tabitha
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Day 1 The Making of a Wife
The Making of a wife
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
Genesis 2:18
" Then the Lord God said, " It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New Living Translation)
Even in the beginning God did not want Adam to be alone. He wanted someone of the same value, beliefs and love to share in everything Adam did. When God made us from Adams rib he intended for us to be one together. To be equal in each others eyes and to know that we are united as one in Gods eyes.
Genesis 2:24
" This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." ( Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New Living Translation)
God gave marriage as a gift to Adam and Eve. Marriage has never been something that was just for convenience, nor was it brought about by any culture.
After reading these two passages I had a totally different outlook on my marriage. I had always believed that marriage was something that the human race came up with. To find out that it was something that God had intended for us to do to symbolically unite Chris and I as one was such an eye opener. I knew the minute that I saw my husband I was going to marry him. There was no doubt in my mind that he was the one that I wanted to be with. But at the same time I felt like I was left out of the loop. Most of the friends that I went to High School with were either married, engaged or had been with their partners for years. Most had kids on the way or already had them, I felt like I was missing out, so why not get married. I would not say that I got married for all the wrong reasons, but I was not getting married for the one and only reason that should have mattered to me.
My bible goes on to say in the foot notes that there are 3 aspects to a healthy spiritual, God fearing marriage:
1. Man leaves his parents and , in a public act, promises himself to his wife.
Most of us do this through our marriage ceremony, where most women wear some type of dress, and the guys wear a suit or tux and everybody dresses up to celebrate our special day with us. In the process we spend a ton of money, stress ourselves to the point that when that day comes we dont remember half of what took place and just want it done and over with. Others have the perfect day and there is no stress on that day. I have to say those that have no stress please share your secrets with the rest of us :).
2. The man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each others welfare and by loving their mate above all others.
Oops I forgot this one for the first year of my marriage and even sometimes after that. When I first got married I was more worried about those around me. I wanted to help everyone and take care of everyone and it did not matter how many times I stepped on my husbands toes. I really did not care what he thought or how hard it was on him to pay the bills and was truly selfish. My friends came first, and that was all that mattered to me. Took me a long time to realize that he was who needed to come first. He was the one who I was suppose to be devoted to, he was the one that I was suppose to share my love with. I could still be there for my friends and family but his needs needed to come first. We were married in July of 2006 and this did not start taking place until Nov of 2011. That's 5 years that he suffered through me putting everyone else before him. He still loves me very much today, he tells me he loves more today then he did the day we got married. I look at him in awe when he says that. How can he love me after everything I put him through, how can he feel this way towards me. God gave me the person that I needed in my life. He gave me a man who sees how big my heart is and understands the decisions that I made. Those decisions that hurt him and put him second, he sees as me loving people and trusting in people to much. My big heart was one of the reasons that he fell in love with me to begin with.
3. The two are united into one in the intimacy and commitment of sexual union that is reserved for marriage.
I don't know about the rest of you and I am not judging anyone, but I can honestly say my loving husband was not my first. Many people today do not hold their first time for their husbands. In today's society it is ok for women and men to sleep with each other before getting married. There are very few women and men that hold true to the word of God and save themselves for marriage. I look back on my teenage years and what I went through. I wish now that I would have waited, that I would not have given the guys what they wanted. By doing so I gave away pieces of my heart and soul. I went through hard break ups and heartaches that I would not have had to go through had I not given in. I am not saying that there would not have been break ups and heartache, but every time that I slept with someone I grew emotionally attached. I wanted that person to be a part of my life forever. I was the one that thought if the guy was having sex with me then he must love me. I was stupid and childish. I was not mature enough to realize that what I was doing was hurting myself. I was listening to the fantasies that I had been told all my life instead of looking at the cold hard truth.
I had given so much of myself away before I got married that it took me almost a year of being with my husband to really be able to see how damaged I was. To be able to start working on making myself a better person. To start patching up the holes that were in my heart and soul. I am still working on this today, but I can look back on it and know that I am further now then I was then and the only way I got there was through Christ our Lord.
God bless you all! Thank you for sharing in my writings and my story.
I look forward to hearing from you,
Tabitha
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
Genesis 2:18
" Then the Lord God said, " It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." (Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New Living Translation)
Even in the beginning God did not want Adam to be alone. He wanted someone of the same value, beliefs and love to share in everything Adam did. When God made us from Adams rib he intended for us to be one together. To be equal in each others eyes and to know that we are united as one in Gods eyes.
Genesis 2:24
" This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." ( Tyndale Life Application Study Bible, New Living Translation)
God gave marriage as a gift to Adam and Eve. Marriage has never been something that was just for convenience, nor was it brought about by any culture.
After reading these two passages I had a totally different outlook on my marriage. I had always believed that marriage was something that the human race came up with. To find out that it was something that God had intended for us to do to symbolically unite Chris and I as one was such an eye opener. I knew the minute that I saw my husband I was going to marry him. There was no doubt in my mind that he was the one that I wanted to be with. But at the same time I felt like I was left out of the loop. Most of the friends that I went to High School with were either married, engaged or had been with their partners for years. Most had kids on the way or already had them, I felt like I was missing out, so why not get married. I would not say that I got married for all the wrong reasons, but I was not getting married for the one and only reason that should have mattered to me.
My bible goes on to say in the foot notes that there are 3 aspects to a healthy spiritual, God fearing marriage:
1. Man leaves his parents and , in a public act, promises himself to his wife.
Most of us do this through our marriage ceremony, where most women wear some type of dress, and the guys wear a suit or tux and everybody dresses up to celebrate our special day with us. In the process we spend a ton of money, stress ourselves to the point that when that day comes we dont remember half of what took place and just want it done and over with. Others have the perfect day and there is no stress on that day. I have to say those that have no stress please share your secrets with the rest of us :).
2. The man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each others welfare and by loving their mate above all others.
Oops I forgot this one for the first year of my marriage and even sometimes after that. When I first got married I was more worried about those around me. I wanted to help everyone and take care of everyone and it did not matter how many times I stepped on my husbands toes. I really did not care what he thought or how hard it was on him to pay the bills and was truly selfish. My friends came first, and that was all that mattered to me. Took me a long time to realize that he was who needed to come first. He was the one who I was suppose to be devoted to, he was the one that I was suppose to share my love with. I could still be there for my friends and family but his needs needed to come first. We were married in July of 2006 and this did not start taking place until Nov of 2011. That's 5 years that he suffered through me putting everyone else before him. He still loves me very much today, he tells me he loves more today then he did the day we got married. I look at him in awe when he says that. How can he love me after everything I put him through, how can he feel this way towards me. God gave me the person that I needed in my life. He gave me a man who sees how big my heart is and understands the decisions that I made. Those decisions that hurt him and put him second, he sees as me loving people and trusting in people to much. My big heart was one of the reasons that he fell in love with me to begin with.
3. The two are united into one in the intimacy and commitment of sexual union that is reserved for marriage.
I don't know about the rest of you and I am not judging anyone, but I can honestly say my loving husband was not my first. Many people today do not hold their first time for their husbands. In today's society it is ok for women and men to sleep with each other before getting married. There are very few women and men that hold true to the word of God and save themselves for marriage. I look back on my teenage years and what I went through. I wish now that I would have waited, that I would not have given the guys what they wanted. By doing so I gave away pieces of my heart and soul. I went through hard break ups and heartaches that I would not have had to go through had I not given in. I am not saying that there would not have been break ups and heartache, but every time that I slept with someone I grew emotionally attached. I wanted that person to be a part of my life forever. I was the one that thought if the guy was having sex with me then he must love me. I was stupid and childish. I was not mature enough to realize that what I was doing was hurting myself. I was listening to the fantasies that I had been told all my life instead of looking at the cold hard truth.
I had given so much of myself away before I got married that it took me almost a year of being with my husband to really be able to see how damaged I was. To be able to start working on making myself a better person. To start patching up the holes that were in my heart and soul. I am still working on this today, but I can look back on it and know that I am further now then I was then and the only way I got there was through Christ our Lord.
God bless you all! Thank you for sharing in my writings and my story.
I look forward to hearing from you,
Tabitha
What lead me back to God
What lead me back to GOD
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
When Chris (my loving, supporting, wonderful husband) and I got married I was the girl who thought that marriage was all about the big house, new cars, white picket fence and 2.5 kids. All I had ever dreamed of was being that wife who gave everything that she could to her husband and had kids and the dog and life was good. I found out the hard way that there were other plans in motion and that the next 7 years of my life were going to be trouble, heartache, sickness and doubts. It got so bad during our 5th year of being together that we almost called it quits. Filling for divorce sounded like the best answer for what was going on.
I look back on it now, we are going on 8 years of being together and 7 years of marriage and I ask my self, "what was it that changed our minds?", "What was it that brought us back together?". If you would have asked me for the answers to these questions two months ago I would not have been able to give you an answer. It wasn't until I got right with God again that I started to truly understand what was going on in my marriage. Don't get me wrong I went to church, I prayed and I never stopped believing in the Lord. But I wasn't close to him. I did not have a relationship with him like he wanted and expected me to. There were so many things that I was doing wrong, like complaining to my husband about how all of this was his fault and that he never did anything to make things better. I always felt like I was the one in the family who took care of everything. I had to pay the bills, keep the house clean, take care of the animals, cook all the meals, and take care of whatever kido was staying with us at the time. I knew in the back of my head that he was working really hard at his job and was the sole provider for our family, but to me I needed more. That wasn't enough for me. I was tired of making all the decisions, I was tired of having to do everything because he was always gone. Even when he was home he wasn't really home. There are times today that I still feel this way.
At the beginning of this year I decided that it was time to get back to what God wanted from me. How he wanted me to act, how I was suppose to treat my husband, and to build a solid relationship with him through my self as well as my marriage. I started doing research, searching the bible for all the things that God had laid out for us as wives and women of God. What I found shocked me. There were so many things that I was doing wrong or wasn't doing at all. I broke down in tears and decided it was time to start living the way that he wanted me to. This has not been an easy thing, I struggle with this everyday. But I know that for me this fight and struggle is worth every step.
This battle may not be for everyone and that is ok. Some may be further ahead in their walk with God and may read this and think I was once there. We are all in different stages of our spiritual walk with God and some may not know him at all.
What I am going to share over the next couple of weeks is what God laid out for us as wives, girlfriends, fiances. What his word tells us we are suppose to do for our husbands. I am going to share information from " The Power of a Praying Wife" By Stormie Omartian, I will be putting together another blog for "The Love Dare Day by Day, A year of Devotions for Couples." By Stephen and Alex Kendrick so that you can all see and experience what my husband and I are doing and learning.
I ask all of you to please share your stories, advice, comments, concerns or questions with me. I am happy to reach out and help you, talk with you, support you and just be there for you if you are ready to talk. It doesn't matter if you agree with what I am sharing or not I want to hear from you and will be happy to listen to anything that you have to share.
Lots of love, Warm wishes, and Blessings,
Tabitha
By: Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
When Chris (my loving, supporting, wonderful husband) and I got married I was the girl who thought that marriage was all about the big house, new cars, white picket fence and 2.5 kids. All I had ever dreamed of was being that wife who gave everything that she could to her husband and had kids and the dog and life was good. I found out the hard way that there were other plans in motion and that the next 7 years of my life were going to be trouble, heartache, sickness and doubts. It got so bad during our 5th year of being together that we almost called it quits. Filling for divorce sounded like the best answer for what was going on.
I look back on it now, we are going on 8 years of being together and 7 years of marriage and I ask my self, "what was it that changed our minds?", "What was it that brought us back together?". If you would have asked me for the answers to these questions two months ago I would not have been able to give you an answer. It wasn't until I got right with God again that I started to truly understand what was going on in my marriage. Don't get me wrong I went to church, I prayed and I never stopped believing in the Lord. But I wasn't close to him. I did not have a relationship with him like he wanted and expected me to. There were so many things that I was doing wrong, like complaining to my husband about how all of this was his fault and that he never did anything to make things better. I always felt like I was the one in the family who took care of everything. I had to pay the bills, keep the house clean, take care of the animals, cook all the meals, and take care of whatever kido was staying with us at the time. I knew in the back of my head that he was working really hard at his job and was the sole provider for our family, but to me I needed more. That wasn't enough for me. I was tired of making all the decisions, I was tired of having to do everything because he was always gone. Even when he was home he wasn't really home. There are times today that I still feel this way.
At the beginning of this year I decided that it was time to get back to what God wanted from me. How he wanted me to act, how I was suppose to treat my husband, and to build a solid relationship with him through my self as well as my marriage. I started doing research, searching the bible for all the things that God had laid out for us as wives and women of God. What I found shocked me. There were so many things that I was doing wrong or wasn't doing at all. I broke down in tears and decided it was time to start living the way that he wanted me to. This has not been an easy thing, I struggle with this everyday. But I know that for me this fight and struggle is worth every step.
This battle may not be for everyone and that is ok. Some may be further ahead in their walk with God and may read this and think I was once there. We are all in different stages of our spiritual walk with God and some may not know him at all.
What I am going to share over the next couple of weeks is what God laid out for us as wives, girlfriends, fiances. What his word tells us we are suppose to do for our husbands. I am going to share information from " The Power of a Praying Wife" By Stormie Omartian, I will be putting together another blog for "The Love Dare Day by Day, A year of Devotions for Couples." By Stephen and Alex Kendrick so that you can all see and experience what my husband and I are doing and learning.
I ask all of you to please share your stories, advice, comments, concerns or questions with me. I am happy to reach out and help you, talk with you, support you and just be there for you if you are ready to talk. It doesn't matter if you agree with what I am sharing or not I want to hear from you and will be happy to listen to anything that you have to share.
Lots of love, Warm wishes, and Blessings,
Tabitha
Introduction
Introduction
By:Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
A lot of you have been following my posts and others on the other blog that I am apart of. Helping women get answers to their PCOS questions and finding the support and love that they need to help get through this pain and heartache. I decided that while I was sharing scientific information and sharing the stories of myself and others that I am close to, I was not sharing in the faith, promises, love and support that God is offering each one of us on a daily basis.
I want to share with you the strength that I have found in God and the promises that he made to each one of us so many years ago. My goal is to share the information, I am not here to push my beliefs on anybody and I am not trying to offend any one. If you have things to add to my posts please feel welcome to do so. I love to hear what others think and hear their stories as well.
Much love to all of you that are going through this and please know that my thoughts and prayers are with each one of you everyday.
God Bless,
Tabitha
By:Tabitha Norvell Insuliteangel29@gmail.com
A lot of you have been following my posts and others on the other blog that I am apart of. Helping women get answers to their PCOS questions and finding the support and love that they need to help get through this pain and heartache. I decided that while I was sharing scientific information and sharing the stories of myself and others that I am close to, I was not sharing in the faith, promises, love and support that God is offering each one of us on a daily basis.
I want to share with you the strength that I have found in God and the promises that he made to each one of us so many years ago. My goal is to share the information, I am not here to push my beliefs on anybody and I am not trying to offend any one. If you have things to add to my posts please feel welcome to do so. I love to hear what others think and hear their stories as well.
Much love to all of you that are going through this and please know that my thoughts and prayers are with each one of you everyday.
God Bless,
Tabitha
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